I know what you’re thinking… Britney, how are you going to talk about elopements when 1. You have never planned a wedding and 2. Have only shot 2 Traditional Elopements (Not the Adventure Elopements like the ones that are popular today)
Technically an elopement is more or less a very intimate wedding with no more than about 50 guests.
Many of my friends and family who are married have mentioned multiple times “Yeah if I were to do it all over again…” and following up with how they would choose to Elope!
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I totally understand wanting to have this big grand wedding surrounded by all of your friends and family. I mean, thats how weddings have been for centuries. The whole idea behind marriage was that two entire families would become one!
So why would an engaged couple stop their wedding plans and decide to elope?
This is how I feel.
A wedding of all things, to the love of your entire life, should never be so stressful that you hate the entire process leading up to getting married.
Engagement is a time to really just enjoy that part of your lives leading into becoming a married couple. I’ve heard numerous amounts of people, people I know, people at the table across from me at a restaurant, family members, and even some of my own engaged couples talk about how stressful the entire process is to plan a wedding. Quite honestly a lot of them have even said “I just can’t wait for it to be over”.
Of course, planning a big event can definitely come with a little bit of stress, I’d consider that normal. But “I just can’t wait for it to be over.” Sounds to me like that’s the time to consider throwing those plans in the garbage and freaking elope.
Being engaged is a time in your life when you are supposed to be excited, overjoyed and filled with love and happiness to be with your soon-to-be husband or wife for the rest of your life! At the end of the day your wedding is about you, and the only thing that matters is that you get to spend forever with your person!
This is exactly why you should elope. Yes, it’s tradition in many places to have a wedding, and sometimes it’s hard to break that tradition. But ultimately, your family and friends are going to be the happiest for you when you are happiest for you. And none of this means you can’t always throw an amazing, laid back, freakin’ awesome party with all of your friends and the rest of your relatives afterward!
And like I mentioned above, Eloping doesn’t have to be just you and your fiancé and it definitely doesn’t have to be on top of a mountain to count! The two elopements I have shot were strictly family and close friends, and both done in meaningful places to both couples, one bride eloped with her fiancé in her grandfather's backyard! If the mountains mean something to you, then by all means elope in the mountains, but if you exchanged “I love you’s” outside of a local brewery and you want to elope there, do it!
There is nothing wrong with being non-traditional, somewhere in between or throwing a huge wedding as long as you and your fiancé are both joyful and happy to be married at the end of the process!